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It is very important to show your partner that you are trustworthy... and here are a few quick tips.
1. Follow through with what you say. If you tell your partner that you will be home by 8:00pm, come home
no later than 8:00pm. If you are going to be late, call and let him or her know ahead of time.
2. Don't be unrealistic. Avoid saying that you will "always" have your cell phone on or you will "never" turn
your phone off. This is unrealistic. Sometimes your phone will die or you might forget it or you might not
hear it ring. Instead, tell your partner that you will try your best to answer the phone. And then... follow
through with what you say (tip #1).
3. Let your partner in. If you have a wall up, it hides things and creates a suspicious feeling within your
partner. Avoid the suspicious behavior and be an open book. The more open you are, the more trust
you can build.
4. Keep your eyes on your goal. Body language speaks louder than words... and so does your eye focus.
If you are talking to your partner and a beautiful woman walks by, keep your eyes on your partner.
If your goal is to build trust, then your actions have to show it. If you want your partner to be
self-conscious, then keep looking at other women. It is your choice.
5. Make time for communication. Communication can create a safe and comfortable feeling in your
relationship. The more communication and feelings of safety, the more the trust can build.
If you have a history of broken trust in your relationship, it might take more than practicing these behaviors to restore it. You will have to resolve the past so it doesn't interfere with your current behaviors. Working with a professional therapist can help.
Building trust can involve a variety of issues within the relationship. If you can’t seem to get the trust built strong, I would like to help you work on building a secure foundation in your relationship through couples counseling/therapy. Give me a call to schedule an appointment. |
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